Mindset Matters: Watch Your Words, Change Your Focus
This week, I want to challenge all of us to take a deeper look at something that often flies under the radar in our daily lives — our mindset, and more specifically, the words we speak.
Over the weekend, I watched a video that really struck a chord. The speaker asked a thought-provoking question:
If we speak roughly 10,000 words a day, how many of those words are positive? How many are negative?
How often are we:
Complaining about something that’s out of our control?
Judging others, even in subtle ways?
Speaking just to fill space, without adding any real value?
He shared a stat that stopped me in my tracks: 95% of the words we speak each day tend to fall into the negative category — whether it’s venting, criticizing, gossiping, or simply talking from a place of frustration or impatience. That’s a huge number, and it’s happening often without us even realizing it.
So I decided to do a little experiment — I had my entire family focus on this for the last few days. And even though I generally consider myself to be a pretty positive person, I was honestly shocked by how often I caught myself slipping into small complaints, quick judgments, or random chatter that wasn’t helpful to anyone.
Something as small as silently judging someone’s hairstyle... or getting irritated at someone’s driving. The kind of negativity we brush off because it feels minor — but it adds up.
But here’s the powerful part: awareness created change. As soon as I began to consciously notice these moments, they started to fade. Not overnight, but noticeably. I began choosing silence when it wasn’t necessary to speak. I replaced complaints with gratitude. And I found myself feeling lighter and more focused.
This simple shift in awareness had a direct impact on my energy — and it reminded me how much our internal world drives our external results.
So here’s your challenge for the week:
Be intentional with your words. For the next 7 days, pay attention to what you’re saying — to clients, to friends, to your team, and to yourself. When you catch yourself complaining, pause. When you feel the urge to criticize or judge, stop and reframe. Aim to speak with purpose, positivity, and presence.
You don’t need to be perfect — just be aware. That alone can shift your mindset, your interactions, and your momentum.
Let’s move through this week with more intention, fewer complaints, and a stronger sense of control over what we allow to shape our mindset. You’ll be amazed at the ripple effect it creates.
